Nudes & Sexting: The Social Currency of Dating
If you haven’t been living under a rock for the past 15 years, you will for sure have pondered some of these questions about, dare I say it, SEXTING! Sexting is something we all have engaged in to some extent. But how soon is too soon? How do you start? What are some good sexting tips? What do you do when the sext doesn’t match the tool? Bae, if you are 25+ you have for sure asked a good homegirl these questions.
Sexting is the act of sending or receiving sexually explicit messages (photos, audio, or video) via an electronic device. A study presented at last year’s American Psychological Association (APA) conference found that 88 percent of respondents, ages 18 to 82, reported sexting in the past 12 months. Sexting is directly correlated with higher sexual satisfaction. So yes, the more sexts you send the better your sex life will be. Let’s get into that:
When to send sexts- First things first, make sure you are comfortable with the content you are putting out. For starters, if you are coy or worrisome this isn’t for you. The best sexts or nudes come from a place of confidence in yourself and a sense of trust in the recipient. Baes, don’t make it a Warner Brother production, take the pic, send the text, send the video, your partner will enjoy it either way. You start sexting when there is a mutual sexual attraction established. Don’t send unsolicited sexts, especially if you don’t want your partner saying: What in the Lil Fizz is going on here?! Lol 😂! Time of day doesn’t matter. The right time is random and when you think of the person in that way.
Sext Quality- The quality of your sexts are directly linked to the impact you want to make. It could be as simple as a dirty emoji or a full blown video of pleasure. Either way you are bound to get a reaction. The point of sexting is to build connection and intimacy from a distance… it’s sort of a prerequisite for the actual act of sex. But what happens when you’re bamboozled by the tools? Bae, it’s 2022 and people are creative executive producers of sexts. Ask for scale sized and unfiltered content. Angles also matter! Be smart, only you can determine what turns you on. The beauty of this is if it doesn’t excite you then you saved so much time, energy, and good outfits because now you don’t have to date this person romantically due to no sexual attraction. But Bae-bee, if you have heart emoji eyes then boom there goes that opportunity to cash out on that sexual satisfaction ticket.
Sexting Tips- When gifting your flowers to your person just know that there is a possibility it might be shared. 17% of sexters share the messages they receive with others, and 55% of those share them with more than one person. Can I just remind you of Nellys “going down down baby” recent video? So let’s figure this thing out. Capture your content in good lighting and clean environments. Don’t let anything in the background distract from the star subject. Angle your device to your “good side”. Be confident- don’t overthink it. Get feedback, find out what your partner liked or wished there was more of. Remember these images will likely be saved!
Sexting is the social currency of dating in the 21st century and is not limited to singles. If you are in committed relationships or married, you should consider normalizing this act to keep things fresh, spicy, and exciting in your relationship. Simply put baes, life is a journey and sexting is a fun and healthy part of finding sexual happiness along the way. Give yourself the space and grace to grow along with the trend, I promise you will not be disappointed!
XXX,
Bella 💋